My Perfect Wife

Nearly 4 years ago I made the best decision that I had ever made; I asked Tary to marry me. I know that I haven’t been perfect. I know that I’ve led us along some bumpy twists and turns along the way. But what I know now more than ever is that we are absolutely perfect for each other. I am extremely blessed to call Tary my wife.

Words cannot begin to describe how absolutely in love I am right now. Even though we will soon be married for 3 years in a few months, our love continues to grow. Marriage should not be a destination. And for us, I am glad it is just the beginning.

What’s funny is that we’re both very strong-willed, always-have-to-be-right types. I am so thankful though that Tary is not one of those must-take-charge, dominate-my-man, wear-the-pants-in-the-family types. I am glad that she is smart and independent enough to make good decisions on her own. I am even happier that she knows when to defer and that she has faith that I can make the final decisions for us and our family.

I am looking forward to us growing old together. We make beautiful, wonderful, sweet children together and I’m looking forward to our family growing. I can’t wait to see them grow up and what they’ll eventually become. I’m looking forward to our family trips and making new memories. And all this is possible because of Tary, my perfect wife.

Tary: Mother, Wife, Mom-bie?

I always struggle to come up with interesting topics to blog about so my loving wife reminded me recently that the boys (cats) and Daniel have had various posts written about them but I’ve yet to write one about just her. Though I’ve written a few things about Tary in a prior post about married life, I wanted to share a little more insight on my wife that extends beyond her obvious exterior beauty.

Though Tary and I have different personalities where she’s more reserved and I’m more outgoing, I love that Tary and I are similarly-minded people. We’re both old-fashioned and try to live by traditional “family values”. She doesn’t mind doing more of the household tasks while I handle the more labor-intensive duties. I respect her decisions and that she’s also willing to defer on the final say.

It’s hard for couples to work if the people are financially different. I’m so glad that Tary is also a “Saver”. We both work very hard for our money and it’s such a relief to never worry about Tary racking up ridiculous credit card bills or gambling our savings away.

I love that Tary is protective of our family and our values. She gets upset when people swear around Daniel. She gets annoyed when people don’t have manners or are inconsiderate. She really dislikes it when people say things like, “Wait until Daniel turns 2-years-old. Then you’ll really be in trouble.” Tary takes great pride in being the best mother that she can be and that she would never let Daniel or any of our future children to be able to control us.

Tary loves to read. Whenever she’s got a spare minute, she’s reading some new fan fiction online or a book on her e-reader. Tary does not have many hobbies but I’m glad she’s passionate about reading. Sometimes when she’s not looking, I watch her read because it makes me happy seeing her do something that makes her happy. She’s a huge fan of the Harry Potter series and I enjoy watching the movies with her. It’s her “thing” and I’m glad I can experience part of it with her.

One of the things I love most about Tary is that she is selfless. She tirelessly cares for Daniel. She spends hours every day pumping and cleaning parts and bottles. She’s fully committed to giving Daniel every advantage that she can provide. So when I hear Daniel look for her and call for “Momma”, it’s obvious why.

Another thing about Tary is that she spoils Daniel and me with love. She loves buying toys and playing silly games with him just to hear him laugh. One of Daniel’s favorite games is I hold him and run around the house while Tary chases us like a zombie. I refer to her as the “Mom-bie”.

Daniel and I are both very blessed to have Tary in our lives. We both love her so much…even when she’s trying to eat our brains!